Dear Queenie,

  One of my uncles got mad at me for calling him “Uncle (whatever)” and said now that I am grown up I should just call him by his first name, so that is what I do.

  But Queenie, I’m wondering – should I stop calling all my older relatives “Aunt” and ´Uncle”?—Confused nephew


Dear Nephew,

  This is a matter of the personal preference of the person you are addressing. Ask each of them what they prefer and abide by their preference.